 Solar Plexus
It is also important to recognize that emotional clarity only comes over time. If you have an emotional solar plexus definition, at a minimum, always sleep on things before making a decision or taking action as there is no truth in the now. If you have an Undefined Solar Plexus, you are vulnerable to the moods and feelings of others and it is important to note that you may be expressing an emotion that is not yours. It is important to wait out all feelings to gain clarity regardless of definition for this reason.
The Emotional Wave dominates the world we live in. We are all surfing in this sea of emotions, riding or drowning in the larger Emotional Wave. Even though Undefined Emotional people feel very emotional, this is not the case. They are actually reflecting or mirroring the emotional chaos felt in the world or in the presence of Defined Solar Plexus people.
The Solar Plexus is a powerful motor with many purposes—one of which is to release primary action. It is the motor or the energy of the human “experiential way.” It takes us in and out of experiences. This Center is very complex as it dominates the basic things of life like making love, bonding, food, moods, romance, and entering into new experiences.
The Solar Plexus operates in a “wave” of emotional chemistry, and this wave moves from HOPE to PAIN and back again. Because this is such a powerful Center, it is very deep within us and it is the Center we are the most identified with. The energy of the Emotional Wave goes up and down, and this repeats over and over again. Where you are “at” in your Emotional Wave changes moment-by-moment, day-by-day, and week-by-week. It is not something that can be controlled or predicted. However, it can be understood and, once understood, it can be used properly to great benefit.
Here is an example to understand the value of the Defined Solar Plexus: Let’s say I’m a photographer and I’m going to take consecutive pictures of a flower as it is blooming. To really fully understand what it is for a flower to bloom, I will need to look at all the pictures. If I pull one picture out of the sequence to look at, I am only getting one very small perspective or, actually, no perspective at all. So, we could say that to fully experience a blooming flower, we would have to “Wait” for the flower to finish its cycle of blooming. Yes, “Wait” is the operative word here! So, for a person with a Defined Solar Plexus, their motto is: “There is no truth in the now.” Truth for these people reveals itself over time. Time provides us the opportunity to see a different perspective. You get a different perspective when your emotional wave moves to a new place. And, when you wait and allow time, you see and hear things later that were not available to you until your wave moved to a new place.
When a Defined Solar Plexus individual takes the time to absorb things in depth on an emotional level, the result can be clarity, a new perspective, and profound understanding. They make choices based on the clarity of their feelings. When you jump into something without first giving your feelings time for clarity, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. This is because you only have a piece of the information that is available to you. This is why we say “there is no truth in the now” for these people.
You’ve heard this before: “It’s not the end result that counts, but the journey along the way.” Taking things in slowly and deeply requires present-time awareness, which keeps you in the moment. It also requires impeccable honesty with oneself. How easy it is for the mind to butt in and try to convince the Solar Plexus to “go ahead, jump in…it’s alright, we have to do this because….” The mind will argue and give “reasons” as to why we “should” do this or that.
Remember, we said earlier that the mind has no “Authority”—it thinks it does, but it does not. The Body has the Authority, and if you have a Defined Solar Plexus, then it is your inner authority—but it can only do its job properly with enough time to feel. A Defined Solar Plexus rules the decision-making process no matter what else is in your Design.
The Solar Plexus dilemma: When we feel its impatient force, we want to act on it immediately. When we are excited about something we feel this incredible wave of emotion. Waiting becomes the hardest AND the last thing we want to do here. Patience, patience, patience, is the motto for the Defined Solar Plexus individual! Patience gives truth time to reveal itself.
If you have an Undefined Solar Plexus it means that you are vulnerable to the emotional climate of people with a Defined Solar Plexus. If you are not aware of this and how it affects your emotional stability, you helplessly ride the emotional wave or chaos of those around you.
Here’s an example of a new relationship: Let’s say Sue has a Defined Solar Plexus and John has an Undefined Solar Plexus. They meet and fall in love. During the beginning stage of the relationship Sue is really high on her emotional wave. She has so much hope and expectation (attachment) at this stage. John is feeling this (attachment) twice as strong as Sue because he has the Undefined Solar Plexus and is reflecting her “high” back to her. She feels this and goes even higher and this exchange continues. They are really having a great time!
But, what goes up must come down, as they say. Eventually, Sue’s emotional wave starts to come down, her mood changes…she is having a bad day and not feeling all that great (maybe she needs some time alone and does not know it or may not want to admit it). She is just feeling a bit low. John feels this and reflects it back and then Sue goes lower and the exchange continues.
Now, if Sue and John did not know about the “chemistry” of the Solar Plexus, they could get into all sorts of “reason-making” or “projecting” about it. John could be thinking, “She’s not the same woman I fell in love with,” or “Wow, is she ever moody!” Sue could be thinking, “He’s just not as romantic as he used to be.” They fall into the trap of “reason-making” or pointing the finger at the other through blame, shame, and guilt. When what is really happening is that the chemistry has just moved to a new place—a place they have not experienced together before. They get confused because things were so good in the beginning and now they appear to be not as good.
Remember, it’s just the chemistry of the moment. And we get into deep trouble when we try to give reason to our chemistry thus perpetuating our reacting to the chemistry. So, rather than give reason to the chemistry and make the other person wrong or bad, a good way to handle this is to just acknowledge where the chemistry or emotional wave is in the moment and be with the current mood. This could mean taking a walk alone, doing something creative, etc. If we force ourselves to be what we are not because of the expectations of others or expectations we have on ourselves, then we are living in pain and struggle.
Ideally, through time, Sue and John will come to accept the emotional climate in the relationship and handle it just fine. Time is important for both of them. John, being the person with the Undefined Solar Plexus, needs to discover if this is truly an emotional climate that is healthy or right for him. If he ends up being constantly emotionally thrashed around, this relationship might not be the right one for him. Another way to look at this is John could make the choice as to whether this “conditioning” is correct for him. After all, John IS being “conditioned” by Sue’s Defined Solar Plexus.
Of course, Sue has an important decision to make as well. Sue needs to be aware of how John reacts to her emotional wave or moods and also the general emotional climate out there in the world. If John personalizes and overreacts every time Sue goes down in her wave—or has a highly charged emotional response to things in life in general—then he may not be the right mate for Sue. She may not want this type of highly charged emotional response reflected back to her. We all get to choose!
So, you can see from this example that Sue and John both need to take their time and feel whether this is the right emotional climate for them. They will have to ride the emotional roller coaster for a while to see if this is the ride they want to have in their lives on a permanent basis. |
If you have an Undefined Solar Plexus it also means that your childhood emotional environment had a tremendous impact on you. The emotional climate you grew up in caused you to develop and use emotional self-protective (“conditioned”) strategies for survival.
As soon as a baby with an Undefined Solar Plexus enters the world it meets an emotional climate. Imagine how this might feel: As soon as the baby is born it feels the positive emotional blast from its Mother and Father. When the Mother gets tired and her emotional wave drops (maybe because the baby is crying and the mother has had little sleep), the baby feels this right away. This child will grow up learning that they do not want to deal with a negative emotional field. It’s too painful and makes them feel tight and uncomfortable inside.
The child learns to hide or make up stories to avoid getting in trouble. At all costs, the child (or adult) may lie or hide the fact that they are sick or did something “wrong” to avoid confrontation so they won’t receive a blast of negative emotion. They feel they could drown in their emotions if they cause anyone to be upset with them. They have been lying and emotionally hiding for years trying to “keep the peace” and “make nice.”
These emotions can build up over the years and explode like a volcano. Those with an Undefined Solar Plexus don’t even know when they are doing it because it has become such a learned and conditioned behavior. They will do anything not to deal with an emotional confrontation. This is deep conditioning that is carried into adult life.
If you have an Undefined Solar Plexus, you will have to learn to deal with emotional confrontation, even though you would rather avoid it at all costs. If you continue to hide from the confrontations, it enforces and enriches the negative conditioning. You need to understand these vulnerable places and not hide from them. This is part of the process of becoming aware and fully alive in life and not living “at affect.” You will need to ask yourself, “Am I still avoiding confrontation and truth?”
The person with the Undefined Solar Plexus needs to use discernment in relationships. They need emotionally responsible and stable people in their lives. Otherwise, they continue to play the game of “making nice” so as not to rock the boat and experience the negative emotions of the other. If they are doing this, they are not being themselves.
If you have an Undefined Solar Plexus, you have come into this life to filter, experience, and know the emotional climate at a very deep level and to be present to it without personalizing it and to become wise about it all.
Ultimately you can get to a point of “emotional awareness” and feel what is going on around you. If you are not “personalizing” or “reacting blindly” to what you are feeling, then you can really “tune-in” to the various energies and more accurately size-up a situation. You can feel when things are emotionally “charged” or “out of balance” and use this information to help find clarity or guidance rather than being a slave to your Undefined Solar Plexus Center by constantly overreacting defensively or passively to the emotional climate.
These Undefined Centers are where we get our biggest lessons in life. If we continue to hide and allow ourselves to be held hostage by other people’s fluctuating emotions, we are not allowing ourselves to receive the self-knowledge that is available to us through this Undefined Center.
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